It is natural to think about psychology and counseling as healing the sick, solving problems, or learning to cope when we're struggling. This is a good start. There are many proven techniques that can ease suffering in a person's life.
However, counseling is not always about solving problems. We are all a puzzle, and putting that puzzle together can take a lifetime. But unlike a jigsaw puzzle that comes in a box, we are not given the complete picture to guide us, and revealing the meaning of each of the pieces can seem frustrating and confusing at times. It's an exciting journey of discovery that is sometimes helped by a neutral guide.
That's where I come in. Let me be your guide.
Some of the benefits available from therapy include:
Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values
Developing skills for improving your relationships
Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
Improving communications and listening skills
Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence
What is therapy like?
Every therapy session is unique and caters to each individual and their specific goals. It is standard for therapists to discuss the primary issues and concerns in your life during therapy sessions. It is common to schedule a series of weekly sessions, where each session lasts around fifty minutes. Therapy can be short-term, focusing on a specific issue, or longer-term, addressing more complex issues or ongoing personal growth. There may be times when you are asked to take certain actions outside of the therapy sessions, such as reading a relevant book or keeping records to track certain behaviors. It is important to process what has been discussed and integrate it into your life between sessions. For therapy to be most effective you must be an active participant, both during and between the sessions. People who seek psychotherapy should be willing to take responsibility for their actions, work towards self-change and create greater awareness in their lives. Here are some things you can expect out of therapy:
Compassion, respect and understanding
Perspectives to illuminate persistent patterns and negative feelings
Real strategies for enacting positive change
Effective and proven techniques along with practical guidance
You are unique. Your experiences are yours alone, and being able to understand and appreciate those unique experiences, of both joy and pain, can have an important impact on your overall mental health. Together, we will explore how you are different and even come to celebrate your quirks and unique point of view. Many years ago, I worked with a 13 year old boy with Asperger's disorder who said to me: